I’m not talking about a Valentine’s kind of love. I’m talking about the “I love that my boss is so easy on me”. Let’s face it, we have all had bad bosses, good bosses and bosses who blow sunshine up our behinds all the time. They all play important roles at various times in our career but the conflict-adverse boss provides no help to us at all. Unless you want a dead-end job where you aren’t growing and being pushed outside your comfort zone.
A great leader, and a great boss, must poses kindness, compassion and empathy while at the same time giving you the feedback that is uncomfortable. That is the feedback that will help grow your career or become a model performer.
Most of the time these bosses don’t even realize what they are doing. They are oblivious to the fact that while they think they are helping you they are really hurting you. Not only do these managers not give you the tough and actionable feedback, they don’t stand up for you or others on the team, they give in too easily to demands of other leaders within the organization and even your fellow employees.
If you are the boss behaving like this, stop now. Learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Help your people grow by providing tough feedback as necessary. Go to bat for your people, don’t let others make decisions for you and your team.
If your boss is falling into this category, take more control over the situation to try an mitigate some of the damage. Be direct with your boss and tell them how you see the situation. Don’t blame them, they more than likely don’t know better. Enlist a coach or mentor who will provide the tough feedback that you need to advance.
Don’t let this go on for too long. The faster you address the issue and make the necessary corrections the better off you and your boss will be.
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